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It Is OK For Black Men To Cry

African men, all men are supposed to be strong and never cry, but manhood and tears are not mutually exclusive. In fact, crying is healthy.


Many view crying as being a sign of weakness and a black man should never show weakness. But, the unavoidable truth is that black men do sometimes feel sad. Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, either way it is OKAY for black men to cry. 
According to WebMD, having a good cry can sometimes be just what the doctor ordered. In fact, some psychologists even suggest that we may be doing ourselves a disservice by not tearing up regularly.

It Is OK For Black Men To Cry
It Is OK For Black Men To Cry
Dr. Stephen Sideroff, a clinical psychologist says, "Crying activates the body in a healthy way, letting down one's guard and one's defenses and crying is a positive, healthy emotion. The same thing happens when you watch a sad movie, it touches you, and you cry that process of opening into yourself is like a lock and key."

If you are embarrassed about crying in front of someone, identify a safe space to cry in your day-to-day environment so you can gain the physical, spiritual and emotional rewards of crying without fear of judgment.

 It is emotionally and spiritually important to express emotions freely without feeling embarrassment. Black men, let your tears come, let them water your soul for tears are words the heart cannot express.

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